delve a little deeper....
For years I promised myself I would write a novel. It's one of those things that so many people vow to do and one of those things untalented famous people or people married to famous people get to do with any discerning talent. If I had a penny for every time someone says to me 'You should write a novel!' I'd be able to hang up my crotchless thongs for good! Actually, talk to any woman in the sex industry and they will tell you they get told this too!
My story and experiences within the escorting world are probably pretty tame compared to many and I think it's one of things that's been done to death now anyway. Rather like those awful sad story books called things like 'Daddy, please don't hurt me!' or 'My mother never loved me' that supermarket book shelves were filled with until 50 Shades of Grey came along. Now shops are filled with books called things like '20 pink lashes' or 'Be my slave' or 'She was his plaything'. I then got people suggesting I "write something better than 50 shades!"...
I think when it comes to publishing you have to have the right thing in the hands of an agent or publisher at the the right time. When something of a new or forgotten genre suddenly surprises everyone and sells millions of copies the publishers want something similar to put out NOW, not six months down the line.
I digress, what I always toyed with was writing a dystopian (Bloody hell, my spell check doesn't know that word, but has suggested Dionysian instead, so it's not completely thick) novel. My favourite novels include The Handmaids Tale (Atwood's Oryx and Crake was great too), Nineteen eighty-four and Never Let Me Go.
I've always had a vivid imagination but have no desire to write fantasy (I'm not even that keen on it as a genre to read and let's face it unicorns and fairies are a bit overdone now) and the concept of exploring a world like our own, but not quite fascinates me. I like a level of reality where the characters have personalities and failings like we do and the answer is not solved by magic or a long journey such as Harry Potter, Lord of The Rings or His dark Materials. Not that I don't enjoy those books, but I can't quite get over the fact that I think authors who write fantasy can overcome plot issues by creating a bit of magic, introducing a mystical device or a character with special powers are cheating a bit! I'm also partial to books that at thr end and you don't really know what becomes of the characters. No happy ever afters for me!
Over the years I have devised utopic and dystopic scenarios in my head, but never got round to putting pen to paper. I did however, before you accuse me of being like everyone else who claims they are going to write a book write a chick litty type novel about ten years ago. I still have the rejection letters to prove it!
I got thinking after reading a few websites and blogs which included various things relating to the whole Lets get rid of prostitution thing. As I was thinking about the notion of a government or law being able to actually wipe out prostitution and how that could actually happen. I started with thinking about the reasons men pay for sex and how those reasons started off toying with the notion of a world without prostitution. Despite the strength of feeling about what I do, there is a small part of me that is a bit sad prostitutes are required and if I'm really honest, as happy as I am, I would never encourage anyone to do this full time if they had other options.
So, if I was writing about a world where prostitution didn't exist (would this make it a utopic novel?) what would have to occur to stop it?
I could write a futuristic novel where the antis get their way and it becomes illegal to pay for sex, but unless this was coupled with more radical, barbaric (or even efficient) policing this still wouldn't stop people and loopholes would soon be found to get round it. Still, a concept to toy with.
Moving on, I began thinking about all the reasons why men pay for sex (I won't list them here) I suddenly realised that the simple answer was to eradicate any sexual desire. I guess that could be created by some kind of environmental change or a world wide decision to vaccinate people with something to stop sexual desire. Sex would only be about breeding then, which isn't far from The Handmaids Tale, but that even had a secret club called Jezebels where men could meet women for a purely sexual purpose. However, whilst sexual desire is a strong motive it's not the only one- affection and company are pretty high up on the list too.
Or, lets go the other way. My utopia- A world where women can choose sex work. No women were forced into it. It was a safe job, women (and men obviously, but for the sake of ease I'm sticking with the feminine) could do it without fear of attack or prosecution. They could work alone, in parlours or in other locations- leisure centres, beauty spas or cruise ships for example and it was considered as a valid career. Women could go to college to get trained in customer service, marketing, accounts, health issues as well as practical skills. What if it was acceptable within a relationship for one or both partners to pop off for an afternoon shag in the way one might get their nails done or see a chiropractor?
I suspect that would mean an eradication of jealousy, the concept that monogamy was normal and a wider acceptance of the kinkier side of sex.
'Darling, I want to dress up as a nun and be beaten about my arse with a pashmina tonight'
'Oh sweetie, you know I'm no good at it, but why not make an appointment with Mrs Miggins on the High Street, Clarissa says her husband raves about her and she's had a go on Mr Miggins who is apparently an absolute hoot'