delve a little deeper....
I get asked sometimes whether I do dirty talking. I'm afraid I probably usually answer 'Um er, yes I can do...' which probably isn't dreadfully convincing for the man asking. Well, I shall let you into a secret. I'm actually not very confident at this aspect of the job! I'm not exactly a shrinking violet and I have plenty of naughty words in my vocabulary as well as a penchant for being talked dirty to as well. Maybe it's the submissive side of me who quite enjoys being told I'm a dirty slut...
However it's context. If a man calling out of the blue opens the conversation with 'Are you a filthy whore?' the chances are I will hang up and block his number cos that's just not polite! However after meeting someone and figuring out they are nice and normal with a fondness for such talk I will feel more comfortable and quite likely probably quite enjoy this kind of session. Seriously, if you do it properly I be be dripping wet before I've even been touched.
But that's them doing the talking.... what about me doing it?
Well, it's really difficult when you don't know someones preferences for language. I have met men who have recoiled at my using the C word (just as I recoil at the word fanny! yuck yuck!) and I have met men who look all sad if I refer to myself in any way other than as an escort and tell me "but you're not a prostitute/whore/hooker/ trollop/ wench/whatever, you're not "like" that. Which is sweet I guess.
A man simply asking me to talk dirty is a minefield. It's why I don't offer a Porn star experience (PSE) as part of my repertoire I feel daft doing all that silly squealing and panting and 'fuck my hole big boy!' type thing. It's all fake. yes, maybe some men like the whole pretendy porny thing, but it's just not me.
The main problem I have when asked to talk dirty is not where to start, it's how to keep going and how far to go. Once you've said 'fuck my cunt' or 'suck on my titties' a few times it gets repetitive. What else is there? There are only so many variation of the term fuck and vagina and let's face it, it can get a bit daft 'Put your meat cleaver in my love tunnel' 'Go on bang my muff harder you saucy stud?'...
Then there's really mucky stuff that whilst I might not be adverse to in my private life I just simply don't do with clients so that rules out demanding they 'fill my hole with your hot spunk' or 'Ram it up my poohole hot stuff', 'Let me taste your creamy nob juice'. One has to be careful not to mention something you don't actually want them to do.
Then there's stuff that you don't want to give ideas to clients. 'Let me be your slut, bring all your mates round to use me!' might lead a man to think he could do that on our next meeting (he can't!) and that brings me onto the main problem I have with dirty talk.
Knowing what they want. I could happily talk about gang bangs or being taken to the pub and being screwed in the loo by the local football team (this hasn't happened, but I am very good at making stuff up and possibly this kind of thing may be sitting in my wank bank...) but for some men the idea of sharing me or thinking about any women in this way would be repulsive and feel misogynistic and disrespectful.
I have a client who likes being told as I use a dildo on his that one day I'm going to get a real cock to pound his arse and he loves it, it really gets him off, whereas a man who has zero bi tendencies might end up with Mr Floppy and a fear for his bottom. It is much easier when you know what makes a man tick and with someone you don't know very well it's really tricky.
So, when a man suddenly announces I should dirty to him, I do flounder and wonder what I can say and how far I can go. In an ideal world a man would suggest to me in advance what kind of thing does it for him. Planning to incorporate it into a roleplay works well for me, and many of my clients. When you're acting out a role and in a 'place' that isn't real it gives much more scope and feels more safe.
What I'm really good at is stories. Rather than being told to talk dirty aka bellow out obscenities I find story telling works really well. It makes it feel more structured, has the added delight of anticipation and both parties can join in and the man can help the story along by pointing me in the direction he wants the story to take and have me vocalise what he wants to visualise. For example the lots of men in a pub story.
Me: Well I walk into the pub...
Him: I bet you had a really low cut top on like a right slut
Me: Yes, my tits were practically hanging out and I had a short skirt on.
Him: And no knickers?!
Me: Of course not, if I bent over then they'd all be able to see my pussy
And so on. The same principle can be applied to any scenario of course- me and my first girl on girl encounter, me and the policeman who arrested me then fucked with his truncheon in a cell or the time I seduced a train driver in his cab (the last two will be made up!) or indeed whatever a man chooses. I'm sure most men can suspend disbelief for the sake of a naughty, yet highly improbably story! I suppose it's a great way to do roleplay without anyone having to act or dress up!