delve a little deeper....
I was telling a friend about a client I had recently. I won't repeat it here (discretion!), but it was interesting not because we had wild freaky sex, but because of how he behaved and how he wanted the booking to go. I won't give too much away in case he is reading this and feels offended, but both my friend and I found it quite perplexing that he chose to act in the way he did. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't rude or out of order in any way, it just made the booking feel a bit cold and clinical. He obviously had a clear idea about what he wanted and what he was comfortable in doing.
My friend said that my job gave great opportunity for people watching. It does.
We all people watch, it's human nature. We can't help but observe other people in our day to day lives and we can't help but pass comment, even if it's only in our own head or as a remark to the person we are with.
When you've done both adult phone lines, escorting and had kinky-as-fuck lovers you become less judgmental of people's fantasies and fetishes and nothing much shocks me any more in that regard.
It's not just clients, but fellow sex workers who all have their own experiences and attitudes to the job. When I started I assumed everyone who did it freely did it because they loved sex, not true. I also didn't realise the broad spectrum of lives people led, their backgrounds, ages, their sexual orientations and how they identify themselves. In fact sex workers (based on those I have met) tend to live less conventional lives, have less conventional relationships and don't look anything like what people not in this world think we look like. When I had to tell my boss I did a bit of escorting when I was outed he looked (offensively so) incredulous. I found myself indignantly telling him I scrubbed up OK and plenty of men did fancy me thank you very much! I drew short of grabbing my own tits and shouting 'Look at these!!!!'
Recently I went to a sex worker show with a civvie friend who spend half the night looking round the audience wondering who was a sex worker and who wasn't. Of course he had no idea because we're not identified by a brand on our foreheads or wear red petticoats any more. You only have to flick through an escort site such as Escorts & babes to see how much the women vary in age, shape, size, hair colour, race, nationality and if they are adorned with body modifications, or not, and so on. There isn't such a thing as a typical sex worker.
I am fond of many of my clients, but I'm really very lucky to have the most amazing people through sex work. My colleagues.