delve a little deeper....
It was suggested to me by the lovely Jamie *waves* who I am now wondering whether this is a market he wants to get into and with that delicious pert bottom, he may may do well!
Well, actually probably not. There really isn't much of a market for male escorts, straight ones anyway, I've not looked into gay escorts so I have no idea really I'm only guessing.
Now, every escort will tell you that at some point they will get an email that goes something like this:
Hi babes, I am a male escort here on adultwork and I get loads of requests for couples and I wondered if you'd like to work with me? How about we get together and I promise we'll get loads of work.
Hmm, you mean you want to shag me for free and hope I'll get you work as a couple.
However this is marginally better than the I'm a male escort and if you fancy some mutual fun without each other charging let me know.
Yes, because I really don't get enough sex *rolls eyes*
I had a quick look at Adultwork to see how many male escorts catering for women there were and found 9,784 in the UK compared to 17,532 women catering for men which means about 30% of all escorts on Adultwork 30% are men which is actually higher than I expected.
However, on closer investigation I looked at the profiles of the 53 male escorts advertising in Hounslow. Most have no feedback at all, which doesn't mean they have never had a booking, but is a good indicator of how busy someone is. A few had feedback that was hidden and a few only had feedback as a client not a provider. None of the profiles looked very professional and one might go as far as to say that they are probably simply men who think they can get some sex and make a bit of cash in the process.
The prices were all much lower than what female escorts charge. One 27 year old was advertising 30 minutes for £10 and £20 for an hour!
I decided to Google male escort agencies to see if I could find a more professional kind of man. The first site I stumble across is called Gentlemen4hire. They claim 'Our male escorts offer companionship for your required occasion, they do not offer any sexual services or "extras" ' and this is repeated in the FAQ section, saying they will not respond to emails asking for sexual services. They don't claim to be a classy or sophisticated site nor claim their escorts are smart, handsome or debonair which is a good job really. Looking at the escort profiles they seem to be a mix of some genuinely quite handsome men with professional photos and bulging biceps and twinkly eyes. However many have holiday photos, self taken pictures with mobiles in front of the bathroom mirror and fuzzy ones that were taken on a night on the lash. Hardly classy.
These male escorts write their own profiles which means they vary in style. One man says
'I have a nice sense of humour, I like to travel and going out, watching football and drinking beer :)' which isn't really inspiring if you're looking for a gentleman to attend a blacktie dinner dance with. Another man (who looks like he's trying to be a bit gangster in the photo) says "I can travel anywhere in London. I charge 40 pounds a hour, if ur interested let me know. I'm available at all times 24 hours".
The site says that they don't charge but that all the cash required is paid to the escort. So, how does this site make any money I wondered. Well, on investigation they charge £9.99 for a month and £19.99 for a 3 month advert. Even though the claim not to be about sexual services some of then men clearly do, one saying
I do full body naked massages, sex, my personal speciality (licking) and sex however you would like it.
Sigh me up now!
Moving on, I did a bit more searching and found a forum for male escorts and this is where I really discovered the pitfalls of male escorting. Page upon page of questions and warnings about scams and complaints from members saying they weren't getting any business. This site is chock full with stories of men who have paid out hundreds of pounds signing up to an agency who promised them lots of work. Here is one brief story:
I joined this company 10 days ago i was advised that i had already been set up with a local woman, this fell through and then was rebooked for 3 days later to then be told she cant go due to breaking her leg. its now been 10 days since i joined and departed with £400 for the joining fee with no work coming my way.
Seriously, the whole site is full of posts similar to the one above and this article reflects that.
However, there are some genuine escorts out there who do make a living and some sites that don't appear to be scams. This site seems very genuine and has extensive media coverage. I also found a very nice sounding man who offers services as both a male escort and a dating coach. He talks about helping women with their self confidence, intimacy phobia as well as other services such as business help and practical help such as chauffeuring and shopping. He says 'A number of referrals come from health care services, often for women with intimacy issues - sometimes due to emotional or physical abuse at some stage in their lives.'
He seems very professional and genuine and certainly more encouraging than the 'Let me lick you!' merchants on Adultwork! Who knows how well he does though.
So, why don't women pay for sex?
Well, in short they don't need to! You only have to look on those naughty adult dating sites, swingers sites, the NSA section on Craigslist and various chatrooms to see that there and hundreds of men looking for illicit encounters and far far less women. I know in my pre escorting days when I experimented with picking up men on the internet I would get a massive amount of responses and if I had wanted to I could have several men every day of the week, talk about shooting fish in a barrel!
Secondly, I think there are some gender differences that do exist, obviously not the same for all women, but here is a quick list.
Of course there are male escorts out there who are all about the date and acting as companions for social occasions and women who use male escorts in this way and not for sex. I don't know any women who have used such a service though.
So, do you know any women who have paid for sex?