delve a little deeper....
Some of you may have read my page on anal play, but I wanted to add a little more about is as have received a few emails in recent weeks asking more about it and specifically how I envisage a booking to go. It's not easy for me to answer 'Will you be able to fist me in an hour booking?' I don't know your experiences and your body well enough to answer that, but hopefully the following will help answer some of the more common questions and concerns I hear from potential clients.
Now, I don't claim to be an expert on the art of fisting, but I have had plenty of experience and do know what I'm doing. I think a healthy interest in the subject and the fact that I enjoy it and am not squeamish about it helps. If you want an expert's view, go read something about Bert Herrman who is apparently the worlds leading expert on the subject. His approach is very spiritual; he sees it as a path to enlightenment and higher consciousness and a way to bond with another person. He draws on Eastern religions, particularly the principles of tantric sex. I don't claim to be able to provide spirituality or any paths to enlightenment, but of you get this from a session then great (I can light a candle and give you directions to the tube station I suppose..)
Anal beads reflecting in the sunlight!
So, you have an interest in anal fisting? I am totally aware that many many people's reaction will be OMG! Yuck! Noooo! when the subject is mentioned, but I am also aware that it is something desired and practiced by many people both gay and straight. A desire to be anally fisted (or even experience simple anal play) is not a sign of homosexuality. I have been asked many times by men 'Does it mean I'm a bit gay then?' No, it doesn't- although I personally believe most people have the potential to be bisexual, anal play isn't about wanting to have sex with a man, it's simply because it feels nice! It may also tick the boxes of feeling slightly submissive, doing something which is taboo or just plainly because it feels good.
When we speak about anal fisting I will ask you questions. I need to know whether you have achieved it before and if not what you have done in terms of anal insertion. I can not promise to be able to fist someone who has never even had a finger in their bottom before. It takes practice!
During the actual session I prefer that we are relaxed to start with and by that I mean that we have had a conversation and maybe a little bit of a play to get us in the mood. I find anal play in general works better if a man is already turned on, excited and relaxed with me. That's not to say if you're experienced and you just want to get on with it without the niceties I won't disagree!
Some men ask about any preparation they need to make beforehand. It's better if you have had a pooh before you come and see me and obviously a wash afterwards. Think of how a sheep's bottom often looks. Yes pooh attaches itself to your bottom hair too, so a proper scrub is required! Some people like to use an anal douche beforehand but to be honest I don't think it's essential, but if you want a go on mine then do ask! It's also quite a weird feeling and easy to do yourself- I draw the line at this though, you can do it whilst I am safely behind the bathroom door!
Depending on what YOU want the anal fisting can start once you're on laying down comfortably or we can have a play with some toys first. I have anal beads, butt plugs and dildos which can be used, or if you fancy something different why not ask to be opened up using my anal speculum?
Anal speculum. Arty not scary.
I will be wearing surgical gloves and using lots of lube to help my hand along its journey. The gloves are to prevent my nails stabbing you as well as for general hygiene. I will not fist you without gloves and nor should you want me to!
To actually fist someone isn't actually about making a fist and pushing in like a slow punch. Once I am right inside you my hand will be more fist shape, but for insertion it will be like this.
I usually start with a finger and progress along adding fingers, checking how you feel. If it's feeling tight or you are uncomfortable then I will slow down or just leave one of two fingers in you until you relax and are ready to continue. Depending on how used to anal fisting you are will depend on how long it takes. Some chaps who have this done on a regular basis can take my whole fist very quickly, with others it is a much longer process. The hardest part is obviously getting past my knuckles and if you think it hurts you then think about my poor hand! ;)
The thing I love about fisting is the point past my knuckles and this part is really awesome. Often there is an almost vacuum and my hand feels sucked inside. Whooosh! Its weird, good weird though. Once my hand is inside you and I'm past my wrist I can experiment with what works for you in terms of moving my hand, moving it back and forth and the speed will depend on you. This varies hugely from man to man so it's all about what feels right for you and of course up for you to tell me faster, harder or slower. Some men like me to keep my hand still and move up and down me themselves or simply enjoy the sensation of being 'full'. Again, the length of time I spend inside you will depend on what you want and of course depending on our positions I am more than happy to play with or suck your cock! Is you want to orgasm whilst I am fisting you then please let me know if there is anything I can do to assist. I am told that orgasms whilst being fisted are incredible!
Well I hope that helps, if you have any further questions please don't hesitate to contact me or add a comment at the bottom of this blog post.
Incidentally, if you're wondering why among the lovely photos I have taken to illustrate this piece there aren't actually any of any actual anal fisting I shall tell you.
1. I don't have any to hand nor a spare anus model
2. It's actually illegal to posses images of anal fisting.
Yes, you read that right! Whilst consensual fisting is perfectly legal it is not legal to take and send photos of the act...
Thanks to Section 63 of the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008 also known as the Violent Porn Act it is now a criminal offence to posses images let alone put them on the internet of an act which results (or is likely to result) in serious injury to a person's anus, breasts or genitals. Never mind that that the said act is consensual.
In fact only last month a man was (thank God) acquitted for having images of fisting and other sexual acts sent to his email. Read this if you're interested in the case. Despite being acquitted imagine the stress of having your personal life go through court and the press let alone losing your job over it. Anyway, the point is, I won't be taking any photographs of my fist in your arse.