delve a little deeper....
It was hot in July, so any excuse to get into a summer vest and my tits out...
On a more serious note, July 19th was the International Day of Protests following the murders of Dora Özer and Petite Jasmine on the 9th and 11th of July 2013.
I went to the Swedish Embassy and met up with fellow sex workers and allies. It was my very first (and admittedly tiny) step into sex work activism. Something I am thinking about getting more involved in in 2014.
I also wrote about Dave Cam's speech regarding porn laws, something I think we'll see A LOT about in the coming year. Noone seems to think this is a sensible or feasible idea. Whilst the main concern is people not being able to get access to educational and support sites, there is a part of me that wonders if the introduction of individual households having to opt in to adult sites whether it'll making looking for sex workers harder for clients.
Keeping in line with the idea of creating an encyclopaedia of sex stuff AKA The Minxipedia and because I was specifically asked by someone I wrote about HandJobs!
I also went to Spain which was wonderful. I got to see Barcelona and spent a few days on the coast soaking in the sun and eating wonderful food. We also had a trip to the historic town of Tarragona. However I chose to write about 24 hour vending machines!
I didn't write an awful lot of great interest in September, but I gave you an insight into why! Procrastination mainly! Here it is!
I did manage one long blog though. It was about the experiences of three members of SWOU at the Woman's conference in Nottingham. This led on to the #BanFreebies hashtag on Twitter which was both hilarious and made some great points about the ridiculous arguments people use against sex work.
October seemed to be filled with me getting cross about Jodie Marsh. Yeah, I didn't think that was something I would ever write, the non entity that she is. It started off when I read about her upcoming show about prostitution called (predictably) On The Game which I wrote about having got into a Twitter spat with her. Rather than a traditional review of the show once it was aired I decided to try my hand at A Fairy Tale Yeah, it was quite bitchy.
Also my first guest blog made a début in October, the first of three! This was from a chap and his thoughts on what he learned as a punter.
Saw two more guest posts, one from another male perspective and the other from a civvy slut
I also reached back into my memory bank (if only one had a penseive to help with this although I'm sure I'd want anyone getting hold of some of my memories!) and wrote about my time as an adult phone line operator. There are boob pics too.
and so to December
Most posts are too recent to link again, but I'd like the raids on Soho are definitely worth remembering as the threat of the so called clean up of Soho will continue into 2014.
And that is that! I wonder what 2014 will bring?!
Here's hoping you all have a happy, healthy, safe and sane 2014. Thanks for reading!
Inspired by the below conversation on Twitter I got thinking about the differences between whore friends and Civvy friends. Civvy friends being those who have never done sex work.
It's true, you do lose sense of TMI and you do become more open about things, which can leave non sex working friends aghast!
1. Whore friends don't look sad when you call yourself a whore
2. Whore friends don't close the bathroom door to pee, and will carry on a conversation.
3. You can ask a whore friend to remove a stuck tampon.
4. If you take all your clothes off in front of a civvy friend and they look embarrassed.
5. You lend knickers to whore friends.
6. You can meet a whore friend for lunch and ask if your hair looks OK because you got spunked on and couldn't be arsed to wash it.
7. You'd let a whore friend into your bedroom with used condom and babywipes still on the bedside table.
8. You can talk about revolting clients to fellow whores without fear of the 'You don't have to do this' conversation.
9. There is no sex question too weird for a whore friend.
10. Whore friends will agree and not look guilty or worried when you declare most men pay for sex at some point and if women stop shagging their partners they WILL go and pay for it.
11. A whore friend will roll their eyes when you say 'He couldn't bloody come' whereas a civvy friend would look concerned.
12. Whore friends don't make stupid comments about your hourly rate.
13. If you meet a new whore it's OK to start swapping pervy stories in the first ten minutes.
14. You can talk about other things with civvy friends without conversation veering back to 'the job'.
15. Civvy friends don't secretly worry they are less busy than you.
Of course, I do have some civvy friends who are a bit more whore like in behaviour! :)
Ok, this is going to sound full of snark, but if it stops just one moron from ringing me up then I am happy! :)
Things clients say that won't get you a booking with me:
Crime: Overuse of terms of endearments
Likely to say: "Hello darling, how are you my darling? I'd like to see you today darling, when can I see you darling?"
Why it offends me: It's annoying, I am not your darling and if you annoy me in the first 3 seconds of a phone call I'm not going to tolerate an hour with you.
What you will be saved in my phone as: DNS (Do not see)
Crime: Asking a million questions
Likely to say: "Where are you? how old are you? Can you tell me what you look like? How much is it?"
Why it offends me: If you don't know these things about me, why have you decided to call me and if you tell me your mate gave you my number then I shall tell you to bloody ask him what I look like!
What you will be saved in my phone as: DNS (Do not see)
Crime: Getting off for free
Likely to say: How big are your breasts, are they full? Do your nipples get hard? Are you shaved? What will you wear for me? Are you horny?
Why it offends me: I can hear you wanking!
What you will be saved in my phone as: Phone Wanker
Crime: Boundary Pushing
Likely to say: Do you do anal/bareback/other service I don't offer? Oh but I'm small/clean/nice, I'm sure we'll get on really well, when you meet me you'll see I'm a gentleman...
Why it offends me: Just NO!
What you will be saved in my phone as: TWAT
Crime: Having a vivid imagination
Likely to say: My wife and I want to have a threesome. Now let me tell you a really long winded scenario about how I'd like the booking to happen. Oh, she is out at the moment, I'll get her to call you later.
Why it offends me: Your wife knows nothing of this you lying cunt!
What you will be saved in my phone as: TW (Timewaster)
Crime: Owning an enormous penis
Likely to say: I've got 10 inches can you take that much? I'm going to send you a photo! Are you sure you can take it? I've got good girth too!
Why it offends me: You've got a 4 inch winkle and you're never ever going to actually show up.
What you will be saved in my phone as: Cockwomble
Crime: Being Scary
Likely to say: Can we do a rape scenario? Can I tie you up and spit in your face? Can I take you dogging?
Why it offends me: No respect for my safety and security concerns, also I've never met you before!
What you will be saved in my phone as: DNS (Do not see)
Other things that make me be booked up for the next six months
1. What time are you open til?
2. What's your postcode? (as an opening line)
3. What girls have you got available? (Um Lydia, Lydia or Lydia)
4. Can I come now, I'm two minutes away. (when you don't know where I live and you haven't even said hello)
5. Can my mate come too?
6. Anything in an accent I can't understand.
7. If you're calling me when I can hear kids nearby (It weirds me out)
8. Would you fuck my dog for a grand (Yes, it happened)
9. I want you to pull my mate but not let him know I've paid you.
10. I want to meet you in a pub/in public (When I don't know them at all)
Am I too cynical?!
This month I spent some time ranting about The All Party Parliamentary Group on Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade (APPG) are launching an inquiry to assess the current UK legal settlement surrounding prostitution. They wish to identify how legislation to tackle demand could safeguard those in danger of sexual exploitation and abuse. I wrote about the issues that concerned me regarding the APPG in this blog and urged people to respond to the questionnaire. In fact I was so determined to get people to take note and respond I blogged a helpful breakdown of the questions, along with my answers.
Incidentally, the responses for this survey are due to be released in January 2014, so that'll be interesting.... watch this space.
I also had a photoshoot in January. Here is one of the photos:
Consisted of me both plugging my March tour to Reading and trying to convince people to romance me on Valentines day. Both failed miserably :(
I also wrote my first blog on my struggle with feminism and how I found it hard to relate to. As someone who of course believes in the equal rights of women, I found it hard to discover that many other women only want equal rights for a certain sort of women (ie. Not sex workers, the working class or anyone who they disapprove of) and that radical feminism has hateful views on sex work, transgender issues and all men.
The Easter Bunny with One Ear was one of my favourite stories I shared with you this year! The saga rumbled on into May too where I wrote about it again. I never did get a refund!
Other than being the oldest bunny in town I wrote a lot in March! Joan Smith pissed me off, I worried about Talking Dirty and I got pissed off again, this time with Melissa Farley and was inspired to write Why I made The Choice to become a prostitute by Brooke Magnanti who had written about Farley.
With April's showers came a long piece on porn, this took for-fucking-ever to write so you can read it again- it's a bit about the history of porn and inspired by me getting fed up with men who learn about sex from porn and therefore don't know how to do it properly!
I also dabbled in satire after Samantha Brick annoyed the entire nation yet again by announcing she was so beautiful other women hated her...
Finally, probably one of the hardest stories to write, but also one I am proud of being allowed to tell. It also highlighted the appalling rape conviction statistics and the Merseyside model in relation to Police attitudes to sex workers.
The Minxipedia was born!
AND I started a Twitter Storm!
Go May !
Oh, and then I got all angsty about feminism again!
Another tough blog- I wrote, for the first time about when I was outed at work. A hard one to write but something that a lot of people wrote to me and tweeted about which was lovely.
However, I also got slagged off by Mumsnet (I'm sure I need a T shirt for that) and in terrific news there was Victory for Scottish Sex Workers.
Part Two coming up tomorrow!
Had a photoshoot yesterday to update my gallery and various online adverts. I had a few Christmassy ones taken too! Here is the first one I have received from my lovely photographer!
In very exciting news I shall be working with the lovely Fanny Price on Sunday 15th December in Bayswater. Fanny is an experienced bi escort usually based in the north of England, but on a naughty jaunt to London with a pit stop in Hounslow for some busty, yummy, juicy girl on girl delights with lucky old me!
If you fancy getting lucky with us both do make your bookings well in advance because it's for one day only!
Click here for Fanny's adultwork profile and contact me in the usual way to secure your session!
Rates for us together are:
£120 for 30 minutes
£200 for an hour
£300 for 90 minutes
£400 for two hours
Christmas! The time of cheer- or indeed far too much time spent with families and night outs with annoying work colleagues!
Why not treat yourself to your very own Christmas present in the form of an hour or two with me?! I promise not to ask you if you're bought all your presents yet or discuss the merits of goose over turkey!
I am not working between the 24th-27th December, but working up till then and then back on the 28th right through New Year.
I will be available New Years Eve and Day but only for advance bookings from clients who will be sober! Usual rates apply!
I have a photoshoot on Friday, so hopefully will be getting new pictures up over the next few weeks, including some Christmassy ones!
It's kind of ironic that last night I was literally round the corner from Soho having been to see Miranda Kane and her Coin Operated Girl show. A comedy performance of a former escort aiming to dispel some of the myths that sex workers are unhappy, forced, trafficked drug addicts *insert media stereotype of choice*. It's hilarious and brilliant by the way.
Completely unaware what was going on in Soho I went home to discover via Twitter that the police had been making raids on 25 flats of sex workers, three sex shops and two lap dancing clubs. This morning's media is awash with stories of crime, trafficking and forced prostitution. The angle is all about 'cleaning up' Soho and rescuing women. I am not naive enough to think that Soho is squeaky clean, I am pretty positive that there are criminal elements in Soho, however sex work is not one of them and the treatment of the women caught up in the raids is appalling and barbaric:
I just feel feel very angry, sad and helpless.