delve a little deeper....
This weekend was Nottingham Womans Conference. One of the topics was sex work. They invited no sex work relevant organisations along- at least not ones that were anti criminalisation, made up of current sex workers or those who don't feel sex work is 'bad'. This link from the blog of SWOU (Sex Worker Open University) details the issues many sex workers have with the conference.
Three women from SWOU went along to the conference to try and gain entry to the conference and to try and put across their views. If you read the last two blogs from SWOU you'll see other organisations offered the SWOU women a place but this was refused by the organisers.
It's not my story to tell, but the women from SWOU spent the day talking to people from the car park. Last night Eithne Crow tweeted some of the things said to her:
The woman from POW Nottingham yesterday asked me if I use condoms after ten minutes of discussing my various qualifications.
"What should I do once my clients are criminalised?"
"You'll find something else."
"Sex can't be work, it's too intimate."
Me: "But my physio put her fingers in my vagina last week."
"Yeah but she didn't come."
Me: "Because of my health, and the debts that I have, I can't currently do anything else than sex work."
3 other women: "We think you can."
"Do you get condoms and get yourself tested?" A left-field and exceptionally inappropriate enquiry during unrelated discussion.
People are very keen to tell sex workers they are wrong, to ask invasive questions and what we do isn't work, isn't acceptable and so on.
On Friday these tweets from @allovrr amused me and make a great point:
Good tip: every time you say something with SW in, substitute "postman". If it sounds weird, it's probably wrong/ whorephobic.
"Does your partner mind you're a "postman?" "You can't be a postman forever." "So what do you do other than being a postman?"
Further to that, I got embroiled this morning in a series of satirical tweets reversing the notion of paid for sex and 'free' sex.
The ridiculousness of these statements highlight how annoying and offensive some of the assumptions and questions are to sex workers.
So there you go.
Have a think before you ask sex workers questions or try to save them and how you might be offended if the same thing was asked of you.
Thank you to all those who took part in the #banfreebies hashtag. There are more if you care to look!
I need to tell you this, but there's not much I can tell you other than I am going on tour to Guildford AND Bristol!
Read about them here
Have a picture of a baby polar bear to make up for crappy small blog!
This is why I am the worst blogger ever and why I would never make it as a columnist or journalist.
In very exciting news I shall be working with the lovely Fanny Price on Sunday 29th September at my usual incall location in Hounslow. Fanny is an experienced bi escort usually based in the north of England, but on a naughty jaunt to London with a pit stop in Hounslow for some busty, yummy, juicy girl on girl delights with lucky old me!
If you fancy getting lucky with us both do make your bookings well in advance because it's for one day only (and early Monday morning!)
Click here for Fanny's adultwork profile and contact me in the usual way to secure your session!
Rates for us together are:
£120 for 30 minutes
£200 for an hour
£300 for 90 minutes
£400 for two hours
If I was in Cambridge next Wednesday and Thursday would anyone book me?Have to be there on other business so was wondering if it was worth getting a nice hotel to work from! Drop me an email if you're interested!
I once wrote about the differences in prostitution laws between the UK and the US last year. Basically the main difference is in the US prostitution is illegal and therefore has to be kept further underground than in this country. Someone asked me last week if I knew what the score was in Australia and I admit I was a bit vague because I kinda knew that it was legal, but had a suspicion it wasn't the same in all states. So this is my very brief answer!
In the eastern states- Queensland, New South Wales, Victoria and The Australian Capital Territory (which is enclaved within New South Wales) prostitution is legal and regulated.
The remaining states (Northern Territory, Southern and Western Australia and Tasmania) the laws are much like the UK- the exchange of sex for money is legal, but brothels are not. Here is a breakdown and explanation of each state if you're interested As each state makes it own laws these vary between the states and as with all nations the issue of sex work is a thorny one with the usual suspects of anti's, religious groups, radfems and skewed statistics.
However, I don't want to dwell on the individual issues of each state and quite simply the same arguments for and against decriminalisation are pretty much the world over and have been written about far better than I could!
What interested me was looking at some of the Aussie escort agencies. This one for example, Models Escort Agency based in Sydney, is very classy and sophisticated. The language isn't particularly sexual; more sensual and does not refer explicitly to sexual services even though it's fairly obvious that the models are escorts. It just felt very different to the UK agencies I am used to seeing! Select Sydney Escorts is a little more raunchy but still a lot more classy than many of the UK sites with well written blogs without explicit language.
I'm not going to link to any UK sites that I want to compare them too for fear of getting in trouble, but with so many badly put together sites full of flashing images and swirly patterns with promises of 'busty blondes' and 'pert arses' I do wonder if the either Aussie men are looking for something different to their UK counterparts or if the Australians know a bit more about marketing?!