delve a little deeper....
First duo done! See what you're missing boys! Still time to book! Bibi is here til Tuesday night so get calling!
I'm on the left and Bibi is on the right!
Lovely delicious nipples she has too!
Despite my promises that I won't tour again, I seem to have arranged one to Reading!
I am going partly for a social affair, but I can never resist staying on an extra day to do some work! I think it's a 'thing' working girls have. Wherever we go we wonder about the opportunities for working!
So, I shall be available in Reading after 4pm on 28th February and am there until the Saturday morning (2nd March). I'll be in a town centre hotel, about half a mile from Reading Station- about at ten minute walk! It's a nice big busy hotel, so all very discreet!
Do try and book in advance so I can organise my time!
In the meantime, do enjoy a lovely photo of my assets!
Ok, this is really bloody long, but I thought it might be useful both to comment on the questions asked, my interpretation of them and some possible ways of answering. Of course I am not saying Here are the answers, this is what is right, copy me!
What I am hoping to do is a) Give my opinions (It is my blog after all) b) Maybe someone will read my responses and be inspired to respond to the survey- that would make me happy and c) Possibly help guide someone one flummoxed on how to answer.
If anyone wants to pinch any of my responses I don't mind, but I think it's important to add your own personal experiences and views.
So, here we go!
6. Do you consider the current laws on prostitution in the UK to be effective and consistent in safeguarding those involved in prostitution from violence, exploitation, and/or abuse? Please answer 'Yes' or 'No', and provide reasons for your response.
Which laws? It even asks specifically for a yes or no answer! *sigh* not a good start.
Prostitution is itself not illegal- this is good. Brothel keeping is illegal- The definition of a brothel is more than one woman working in a location selling sex. This is a bad law, some women would be safer working with someone else. It is illegal to profit from prostitution as a third party- i.e a pimp. Pimping is procuring the services of a prostitute for another and taking a cut of the fee. This is illegal. If it’s a pimp who works by forcing, threatening or drugging a women then of course this should be illegal. However, parlours or agencies can provide support, advertising, security checks and so on for women and as a business should get a cut. Many women who don’t have a location to work from on web savvy rely on their agency to provide them with business. Good parlours provide a great support network and security for many women. I personally agree kerb crawling and soliciting should remain illegal, others may disagree. Laws regarding trafficking are good and the harshest penalties should be give for those found guilty of this.
If you answer Yes it implies you think that everything is hunky dory or that violence, exploitation, and/or abuse does not exist. If you answer No it implies you think that violence, exploitation, and/or abuse does exist and is a problem. It is for some women and isn’t for others. We already know that the ethos of this inquiry is to bring about paying for sex as illegal so saying No can be interpreted as No, we need to make prostitution go away.
Don’t just say either yes or no or else you will be plopped into a statistic saying something you don’t mean.
How I’m answering
Prostitution should not be made illegal, nor should paying for the services as a prostitute. The laws on brothel keeping need relaxing. It would be safer for women to work together legally for their own security and support.
Whilst it is illegal to profit from prostitution as a third party, parlours or agencies can provide support, advertising, security checks and so on for women and as a business should get a cut. Many women who don’t have a location to work from on web savvy rely on their agency to provide them with business. Good parlours provide a great support network and security for many women. I agree kerb crawling and soliciting should remain illegal. Laws regarding trafficking are good and the harshest penalties should be give for those found guilty of this.
There are already laws in this country that cover coercion, abuse, rape, theft and assault and can already be applied to those who are victims whether they work as a prostitute or not.
7. Do you consider the current laws in the UK to be a barrier to those who wish to exit prostitution? Please answer 'Yes' or 'No', and outline reasons for your response.
Again, which laws? I’m not entirely sure what the law has to do with those who wish to exit prostitution. Women who want to leave have all manner of barriers from the fact they are forced by someone else, have gaps in their CVs, are unqualified for other work or can not earn as much as they need to to live on in careers they are qualified for as well as high unemployment rates, a lack of part time work for those who are carers and so on. There are already laws in place and charities for those who need to escape from someone forcing them into prostitution.
I’m not sure what they are getting at. Can someone enlighten me?
How I’m answering
Women who want to leave prostitution have all manner of barriers from the fact they are forced by someone else (which obviously needs tackling and there are already laws that make this illegal) Other reasons are that have gaps in their CVs, have been outed as sex workers at some point and have a stigma attached to them, are unqualified for other work or can not earn as much as they need to to live on in careers they are qualified for as well as high unemployment rates, a lack of part time work for those who are carers and so on. The real issue is that escorting carries a massive social stigma which means many have to hide their work. Laws won’t change this, the erosion of Victorian morals in this country will.
8. Around the world, there are different legal settlements that govern prostitution. Do you think any of the legal settlements outlined in the summary above would be a good basis to base reforms in the UK on? Please give evidence and reasons to support your answer.
Ooh, a good question. However it relies on those answering to have a clue about the laws in other countries and how to interpret the statistics and spinning by those for and against!
The background on the first page of the questionnaire mentions New Zealand and the quote- ‘the majority of sex workers interviewed felt that the (act decriminalising prostitution) could do little about violence that occurred’ in the sex industry, and that the social stigma surrounding involvement in prostitution continues.
This implies it is a bad thing, however is the most popular model among prostitutes because brothels and agencies have been decriminalised. There has not been an increase in prostitution (a myth the antis have tried to perpetuate) and more women are reporting crimes against them.
This is a great article why decriminalisation works in NZ- http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/6292753/Sex-conditions-safer-but-prostitute-stigma-remains
USA- Illegal to buy and sell sexual services. Not an option!
Canada- Very similar to the UK
The Netherlands- legal and regulated, including brothel running. During the 1990s, some 10% of prostitutes worked on the streets, 30% in window prostitution, 30% in a sex clubs, 15% in an escort service, and 15% in their private residence. However, there is some evidence to say that because of these laws the criminal element is high and is the top destination for human trafficking.
However, I think there is some merit in regulating the industry, but only if there are resources to prevent an increase in trafficking. I also think the problem with The Netherlands is based on a reputation and a culture which has made it a destination for buying sex- rather like Thailand. I don’t want this for the UK and I don’t want prostitution to become a career option for young women who are encouraged by financial gain yet not enjoy it.
Sweden- The laws on prostitution in Sweden make it illegal to buy sexual services, but not to sell them. Pimping, procuring and operating a brothel are also illegal. The criminalisation of the purchase, but not selling, of sex was unique when first enacted in 1999, but since then Norway and Iceland have adopted similar legislation, both in 2009.
As our survey tells us “ The aim in Sweden is to reduce or end prostitution rather than to manage it” which will obviously appeal to the antis in this country and for those offended by prostitution seems like a good idea.
This is a bad idea. In a nutshell- it will NOT make prostitution go away, it will push it underground, deprive some men of the only bit of affection they might get, make it impossible for women to report crimes against them if they carry on, criminalise decent men, makes hundreds of women ‘unemployed’ thus financially vulnerable, not stop the real criminals anyway.
And this will tell you in more detail why it doesn’t work:
How I answered
Prostitution will not go away. Nor is it a crime of violence against women, which was the thinking of the Swedish Model and the proposals in Scotland. I am hugely opposed to this. The closest legal settlement I support is of that in New Zealand where women who choose to work as prostitutes receive police support when required, have better access to health information. Research has shown that the Prostitution Reform Act (2003) has had little impact on the number of people working in the sex industry. Here is link to evidence. http://www.justice.govt.nz/policy/commercial-property-and-regulatory/prostitution/prostitution-law-review-committee/publications/impact-health-safety/2.-estimation-of-numbers
This article also demonstrates the positives- http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/6292753/Sex-conditions-safer-but-prostitute-stigma-remains
9. At present it is often legal to purchase sex. Do you feel criminalising the purchase of sex could make a contribution to tackling demand? Please answer 'Yes' or 'No', and outline reasons for your response and what other measures would be required.
I think the answer is yes. Many men, certainly initially would be put off paying for sex if it became criminalised. However, I feel there would be ways around it. Prostitution won’t go away, it’ll be driven underground and draw out the criminal element of this world making it harder and more dangerous for both clients and providers.
However, I’m not simply answering ‘YES’ because next thing we’ll know is newspaper articles saying ‘89% of people want paying for sex made illegal’ headlines and something for the antis to bang on about, Therefore you answer needs to give a bit more detail. Maybe some personal information?
How I answered
The estimated figure of men who pay for sex in the UK is about 10%, although some surveys have put it at 20%. In 1948 Kinsey stated that 69% of white males had at least one experience with a prostitute.
My instinct says that 69% is closer to the reality, even in the UK today. As an escort with 3.5 years experience I have met a huge number of men from every profession, background, race, nationality, religion and age. They all have different reasons paying for sex. None of them have been to commit violence against me. This indicates that many men do pay for sex and those men are nice, decent polite men. Of course there are abusive men who do pay for sex, but there are also abusive men who play golf or ride bicycles. Banning bikes or golf will not make those men any less abusive. If a man is intent on hurting a women he will find someone to do this to, not necessarily a prostitute.
Why does there need to be any legislation made to decrease the demand for sex? What happens between two consenting individuals is no one else’s business.
What Criminalising paying for sex would do is deter the kind, law abiding clients that all sex workers wish to see. Business would be reduced for many women leaving them financially vulnerable. It could potentially force women to take more risks on whom they see or offer services that they may not be entirely comfortable with. Why should women have to leave a job they enjoy because someone else believes they are not enjoying it?
10. At present a number of laws seek to regulate and restrict prostitution in England and Wales. Do you think altering or removing these laws could make a contribution to tackling demand? Please answer 'Yes' or 'No', and outline reasons for your response and what other measures would be required.
Isn’t this the same as question 9?
I’m wilting now.
How I answered
Please see my response to question 9. I do not believe the issues regarding prostitution that need addressing is tackling demand.
11. There is evidence that a number of people involved in selling sex would like to exit prostitution but find it difficult to do so. What measures (including legal measures) would be most helpful to support those involved in prostitution who wish to exit?
Isn’t this a repeat of question 7? Is this survey trying to trick us?
This ‘evidence’? Not seen any. Are there more women who want to leave prostitution than women who work stacking shelves want to leave that? Wouldn’t we all prefer to leave a job we either hate or at least tolerate to go and do something wildy exciting, fascinating and challenging yet unstressful and with a huge salary? How many people in this country are miserable at work but can’t leave for financial reasons?
For the record, I have days I want to do something different, but I do like it most the time, which frankly can be said for every single job I have ever held.
Of course, the real reason is that this is asked is because a big deal was made about helping women exit prostitution when the Swedish laws were changed.
How I answered
I refer you back to question 7 for my views on this. I would also like to add that if the law changed to criminalise clients, many women would be in a financially worse position due to a decrease in business. Is it realistic to offer them benefits or other financial assistance, training courses, child care for them to work more traditional hours and so on over the many other people who are struggling in this country at the moment? For many women I know (including myself) the biggest barrier to finding alternative employment would actually finding a job I am qualified for that would pay the salary I require to exist on. That and explaining the gap in my CV as well as dealing with what happens when they find out I was outed in a tabloid and had to resign my previous position. The latter being the biggest issue with prostitution, the stigma. I am not sure what laws would realistically change that.
14. Do you have any other comments surrounding the legal settlement on prostitution in the UK?
This is your chance to say anything else that you feel strongly about or that is pertinent to you as an individual.
How I answered
I would like to add that there are many women in prostitution who do it through choice, because they enjoy it and are good at it. Many many people who see prostitutes are decent people and are not abusing the women they see. The law that needs changing is one that would allow women to work together for safety.
What the police need to be able to do is tackle those who are forced into prostitution. If the women out there who are abused and trafficked have not been rescued yet then that is a huge failing and where resources need to be focused. The law that prevents women working together in the same location needs reviewing. If the wellbeing and safety of sex workers is a concern of yours then you have to actually listen to sex workers, find out what would make our already stigmatised jobs safer and focus on those who are forced and abused. This is what those in power should be focused on, not the criminalisation of the innocent.
I have already written about this in this blog, but I wanted to add some further food for thought.
It has been announced that The All Party Parliamentary Group on Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade (APPG) are launching an inquiry to assess the current UK legal settlement surrounding prostitution. They wish to identify how legislation to tackle demand could safeguard those in danger of sexual exploitation and abuse.
A survey has now been published to gather data for this inquiry. I am urging you, whether as a punter or sex worker to complete it. This is the link.
I will follow this blog with one on some thoughts on how to fill it in if you're stuck!
As with the Scottish bill and anything most anti prostitution feminists say the onus is on those who are victims and who are abused. Hooray! Of course, we all want those who are violating women and forcing them into prostitution dealing with. We want women to be able to work safely and have confidence that the law will look after them.
However, I already had a sneaky suspicion that the tone for this inquiry has been set. I shall quote Mr Shuker, the chair of the APPG again.
"While a minority of women who enter prostitution claim to do so willingly, for the overwhelming majority it is a result of contributing factors including previous sexual abuse, debt, drugs, coercion, homelessness, domestic violence and others."
Secondly, the project is funded by CARE (Christian Action Research and Education) and whilst one dislikes stereotyping I’m fairly sure that Christian groups tend not to look favourably on any type of prostitution.
The problem of course is that there is a whole raft of types of women in prostitution, but of course certain groups (the church, feminists, MPs, the unworldly) like to browbeat us with the notion that prostitution is violence against women, no woman wants to be a prostitute and that they are all drug addicts, victims, mentally unstable etc etc.
I decided to find a little more out about the members of the APPG. We already know the chair’s opinion so who else is in this gallery of rogues? The full list of the APPG members can be found here.
Let us look at Fiona MacTaggart-
Pretty well known in her views on prostitution. In 2008, on the BBC’s Today in Parliament programme Mactaggart said "Something like 80% of women in prostitution are controlled by their drug dealer, their pimp, or their trafficker."When questioned on her claim she stated that it "came from an official Government publication into prostitution and the sex trade". However, The Home Office have stated that they "do not endorse or use the figure that 80 per cent of prostitutes are controlled by others". In January 2009 MacTaggart told the House of Commons that she regarded all women prostitutes as the victims of trafficking, because their route into the sector "almost always involves coercion, enforced addiction to drugs and violence from their pimps or traffickers."
In May 2011, she went further and said "I don't think most men who use prostitutes think of themselves as child abusers, but they are"
Although to be fair to her, back in 2006 she did tell the BBC:
"What we have a responsibility to do as a government is to make sure that women who are involved in prostitution are safe and one of the ways of doing that is making sure that where two women are working together from a flat they don't face a 14 year sentence."
Hmmm, not sure what changed...
Baroness O’Cathain said in May 2009 (regarding Clause 14 of the Policing and Crime Bill) that she would have preferred an outright ban on prostitution.
So already we can see that possibly some of the members have quite strong opinions about what they think about prostitution. How can an inquiry be unbiased when such people are responsible for it. Whilst I haven’t found anything much relevant on other members I certainly haven’t found any of them to have a positive, more rounded view on the subject.
Note the official purpose of this inquiry is this-
To raise awareness of the impact of the sale of sexual services on those involved and to develop proposals for government action to tackle individuals who create demand for sexual services as well as those who control prostitutes; to protect prostituted women by helping them to exit prostitution and to prevent girls from entering prostitution.
I have highlighted the section that basically means that they have already decided that individuals who pay for sex require tackling. That means men (and women) who pay for sex could well be criminalised, as per the proposals in Scotland (and other countries). This is a big fucking deal. I've written about this before so won't repeat myself again.
The Good News
Yes, there is some! All Party Groups are informal, cross-party interest groups that have no official status within Parliament and are not accorded any powers or funding by it (Hence the funding by CARE) They should not be confused with select committees, which are formal institutions of the House. More here if you're interested.
Therefore they have no real power, but of course do need to be taken seriously on the basis responses received may be used to formulate a new proposed bill.
The other good news is that the Lib Dens are likely to be against criminalising those who pay for sex. In the run up to the last general election Lib Dems were in favour of the decriminalise brothels and prostitution in general. Official policy documents stated “We would establish a system to regulate the activities of privately-operated brothels.”
Therefore with the current coalition government there is a chance it won’t go anywhere, especially seeing as there are plenty of other issues that Cameron is busy with. Whilst this might sound like something the Tories would get on top of in reality it isn’t. Public opinion would probably go along the lines of ‘Haven’t they got anything better to do?!’ That and it’s common knowledge Tory men are kinky deviants! *insert winky smiley face*
However, if (and it’s currently looking likely) the Tories don’t get in again, Labour probably won’t let this one drop. Harriet Harman was pretty determined that it become illegal to pay for sex.
Finally, remember the poor coerced, trafficked abused women mentioned earlier? Well, yes they do exist. Statistics are hard to find, and remember Operation Pentameter? If not read this but where abuse does exist it does need dealing with and women should be able to get off the streets and work in safe environments. Noone on the pro prostitution side denies that trafficked women are out there and the last thing I want is for people to think I'm dismissing those who are exploited.
Michelle Sweeney is an Anti Human Trafficking Activist. There is an interview with her here.
The work and fundraising she does is amazing and her passion is inspiring, but she does say when asked about what legal improvements would help stop trafficking,
"All men who are thinking about buying sex should bear in mind that it’s usually trafficking victims who are affected. I often wonder if the people buying sex would think differently if they knew that the people they were buying it from were in fact victims of human trafficking, if they knew that they were in fact raping a woman or maybe even a child, would they stop buying sex? So again, educating the men in our communities that slavery still exists in the form of sex trafficking might help end the demand side of the issue."
That's pretty emotive and she believes that by stopping demand the need to supply would vanish. I don't think it's as straight cut as that. I think most men who pay for sex would hate the idea of seeing a trafficked woman and I know from personal conversations with my clients that they are repulsed at the idea of seeing a forced woman and actively choose independent women. I also think the criminal element wouldn't give a toss and the kind of men we escorts don't want to see would carry on and the ones we do are more likely to stop for fear of prosecution. Criminalising our clients would of course have detrimental effect on business and would probably force women to see dangerous clients or offer services they don't want to do to survive.
We also need to consider that there are laws currently in place to tackle this. The Sexual Offences Act 2003 made it illegal to buy sex from anyone aged under 18 and introduced tough penalties for trafficking adults and children for the purposes of sexual exploitation. Other crimes associated with prostitution such rape, assault and theft are all covered under the law, and although I appreciate many women are less likely to report a crime against them if they are a prostitute. If the laws on women working together was removed maybe there would be less fear of repercussion when the worst happens and the police should be called.
The issue of paid sex is emotive and far more complicated once you scratch the surface. What we can't allow is a broad sweep that decrees all men who pay for sex are bad and all women who offer the service need rescuing We can't let the 'antis' pull on the heartstrings to push through laws that will leave many women more vulnerable.
This is why we need to act now and make the voices of intelligent, decent, law abiding service providers and clients heard.
You have until February 4th to complete the survey.
I will try and write a guide to completing it over the next couple of days. Don't get me started on the bias of the questions though!
Am having a couple of days off to catch up one some chores and tomorrow I am going to the ballet which I am looking forward to very much. Luckily the snow everyone is wittering on about arrived this morning and then quickly melted away so I'm not stranded in Hounslow and unable to go.
Have a friend staying with me tonight who is available for outcalls in the Heathrow area. So, even though I am bunking off she is all set and ready to meet you!
Here's her website Busty Sarita with her phone number and details.
In case you missed them on Twitter, here is one of my lovely new photos!
Have been meaning to blog about the photo shoot but kept getting distracted! Will try and do a post later next week.
OK, here's a date for you, my regular boys!
On Tuesday 22nd January I am offering threesome bookings with my partner in crime.
We will be available together from midday.
The booking can be tailored to cater for your fantasy. You can enjoy being a voyeur, watching us getting hot and steamy together or maybe you'd like to see him being a cuckold (I can even tie him to the chair and not let him join in!).
He is fully bi so if you want some more intense man on man action this will be given happily. We can work with both newbies and the more experienced. We are both laid back, kind and considerate and will go at your pace if you're new to this. If you want to experience your first male blow job, then why not give it a go and if you decide it's not your thing there will be no pressure to continue and we can go back to the straight stuff!
If you're totally straight and just want to experience playing with me with another man we can do that too, with no advances made on you from him! I, however won't be able to keep my hands (and mouth) off your cock!
So, we are flexible in terms of how a booking will go so don't be shy and let me know.
However, I have set some some rules:
1. We will only be taking advance bookings. No on the day bookings (basically, because if we don't get bookings we shall be doing something else and not sitting about waiting for the phone to ring!)
2. I will only accept bookings from clients I know to reduce the possibility of no shows and time wasters. If we haven't met and you really want to see us I will ask for a deposit!
30 minutes- £80
1 hour- £120
90 minutes- £180
2 hours- £240
Contact me by email or phone to discuss.
Incidentally, we're also happy to do foursomes if you want to bring your missus!
OK, so you remember This Blog? which was basically me ranting about the notion that prostitution is a crime against women and that The Scottish Bill to make paying for sex illegal was a load of pants. Remember?
Within that blog I asked if the law does change is it likely to happen in England too?
Well, it may well. The Guardian (links to article) reported last week that according to Gavin Shuker (MP for Luton South)
"2013 is a year in which parliamentarians will be forcibly pushing for the laws around prostitution to be revised, especially in light of what is happening in devolved administrations,"
Shuker, is the chair of The All Party Parliamentary Group on Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade. They have a website! It doesn't say much, but Mr Shuker has made a blog entry listing the Myths around Prostitution. Very helpful. It uses emotive terms such as 'sexual exploitation' and 'gender based violence' and brings up the usual words one associates with prostitution (note sarcastic eye roll) - drugs, domestic violence, abuse, coersion and so on.
However, Mr Shuker has failed to give us any idea where he got his clever ideas from; no stats, no references, not even any anecdotal evidence. One wonders whether he came up with these ideas based on watching The Bill or Band of Gold. Clearly he missed The Secret Diary of a Call Girl.
Shuker starts his missive "While a minority of women who enter prostitution claim to do so willingly, for the overwhelming majority it is a result of contributing factors including previous sexual abuse, debt, drugs, coercion, homelessness, domestic violence and others."
A minority? How do we know this? I know (of) plenty of women who make a very free choice over what they do, they are not victims, abused or addicts. They are independent, intelligent women who choose to do what they do.
As I said in my previous blog on this topic and in my letter to Rhoda Grant, I am not a victim who is abused by men. I don't believe that I am exploited and nor are my clients nasty man who hate and violate women. I've said it here before so won't go on about it again, but I am going to tell you to read THIS LINK called 'Sex work, why so hard to swallow?' by Becky Adams who has spent 20 years in the sex industry so actually knows what she is talking about.
We need to keep a close eye on what is happening in Scotland and what may come to pass in England. This is very scary. I don't want my clients to become criminalised any more than any man who has ever paid for sex does. I just can't comprehend why those in power are not focusing on those who really do need help, those who are abused and forced into prostitution, seeking out the perpetrators and doing something about that. Why can't they leave us happy free spirited floosies and our thousands upon thousands of clients who seek a little bit of fun, compassion and companionship alone
And if changes start to become afoot in England you can bet your bottom dollar that I will be banging on about it a lot more.
Just a reminder that I will be starring alongside the lovely Bibi of Leeds from 26th- 30th January. We're taking bookings already and have a few in the diary so don't delay making your booking!
We will be available for duos (we're both bi and love to play!) as well as individually on those dates.
For duos we will be charging:
£120 for 30 minutes
£200 for an hour
£300 for 90 minutes
£400 for two hours
For longer sessions give me a call to discuss!
We will also be available for outcalls in the Heathrow area. You will need to give us plenty of advance notice for outcalls though and we will only visit decent hotels and not private residences.