delve a little deeper....
Notting Hill tomorrow and Friday morning with the lovely Rosalie. We're available for duos which we'd really appreciate cos when one is working the other has to go for a walk in the cold! Of course who would turn the opportunity down to meet two luscious babes at the same time?!
Will promise to write a proper blog over the weekend. Have so much written in my head, I must get it down on paper (so to speak) before head explodes.
Oh and I am considering offering dinner dates. Would you like to take me out? I promise I know which fork to use and I won't show you up.
Finally, Happy Birthday to my partner in crime, 21 again!
OK guys, get in quick! I am based at the Notting HIll flat on Thursday 26th January and the morning of Friday 27th January.
I am likely to be in Notting Hill on the Thursday and Friday of each week now.
Do book sooner rather than later so you can see me!
As much as I am loathe to link to The Scum, this article was brought to my attention and I felt the need for a rant. For those of you who don't want to click the link (I feel dirty, so I don't blame you) it is an article about a school secretary who has been working as an escort, or as The Scum put it a 'kinky hooker', cos well escort sounds too nice, The Scum like to sleaze it up a bit doncha know?
Shock, horror, a woman who sells sex. Regardless that thousands of women are doing it, it's not illegal and she's doing it through her own free will it's still in a newspaper. It's actually not news. Oh but The Scum (and other tabloids) continue to print these stories, for what odds? To fill column inches, to titillate or just because they get their kicks out of trashing people's lives? Certainly not because they feel they need to lead the nation to some moral utopia.
It appears The Scum even have a template to follow when creating these vile pieces of tripe...
Make a meal of the organisation the woman works for.
In this case a catholic school, despite the fact this school lets pretty much anyone in and is considered not particularly good. But tabloids need an emphasis. Do its illiterate, ignorant readers sit there reading such things and say 'Er, Gazza, look at this, a caflic school, blimey, those poor saintly children'? Probably. A 'Not very good state school secretary' doesn't quite have the same ring to it does it? Tick.
Make the woman sound like a cow. She 'boasts', she 'brags', add inverted commas round words such as 'classy' to let your readers know that really she isn't. Tick
Use the cliche 'by day she is...' as if she turns into some kind of a cartoon villain at night. Oh yes, The Scums rates prostitutes alongside pedophiles, people who mug old ladies and crack dealers who peddle outside infant schools.
Come up with some bollocks on how this was uncovered. In this case 'her sideline was uncovered after a parent of pupils saw photos of the petite brunette on the site'.
Utter rubbish. Any leak to the employers was made by The Scum themselves. I would bet money on that.
Steal photos off her website. Tick
Add another picture taken unawares in the street. Tick
Allow Scum readers (I use that word loosely) to make nasty comments about the woman's physical appearance. Tick.
As I said, this is not news. Her private life is her own and what she chooses to do in bed (paid for or otherwise) is irrelevant to her job. So what if she works with children? Sexual appetite is not contagious. I'm quite sure she wasn't seducing the kids and demanding their dinner money for payment.
The school will probably now sack her. Despite her not actually doing anything wrong, not in work time and probably not to any affect to her job the school will be within their rights to dismiss her. Contrary to the opinion of sensible people who think that even though what she does is legal and her own personal business; organisations that have a public or professional reputation to maintain can pull the 'bringing the organisation into disrepute' line. And it will stick. She can not say I am discreet, noone knows, because it is now in the fucking Scum! Argument void! Go straight to HR and collect your P45.
But why should she lose her job? Because the sex industry is seen as seedy, unsavoury and full of drug addled pimped whores and dirty old men in brown macs. Those who don't know any better will get their sensible granny knickers in a twist. Even those who do know better aren't usually willing to publicly stand up and defend the trade. Men in every single profession pay for sex. Very few of them would actually stand up and be counted when it comes to it. Even if the head teacher of this school has been shagging call girls for years, has an understanding of the industry and is thoroughly sympathetic he is not going to show that publicly by announcing that it doesn't matter and she can stay in her job.
This is why we hear about Harriet Harman and her ilk making ill informed proposals which come down to Ban all prostitutes! Criminalise all men who pay for sex! Do we ever get any MP's say, 'Actually, there is a genuine supply and demand here, but girls put themselves at risk because they can't work in pairs or groups because that means the premises becomes a brothel and therefore illegal, we should change that?'. Um no. No one wants to admit that actually there is a thriving industry with successful, professional, clever women who are happy to be paid for sex. Women aren't meant to want to do such a thing are they?
What accepting prostitution means is having to face that actually, we don't all want to settle down in the monogamous relationships expected of us. Wives want faithful husbands, men feel shame at choosing to pay for sex, mothers want their daughters to be virtuous, women can't comprehend how other women can fuck a man she has only just met and so on. Prostitution rattles what conventional society and culture dictates. Despite the adage that prostitution is the oldest profession it still, and probably always will be considered wrong, dirty, shameful and something that newspapers can use against women who have done nothing more than have a liberated sex life and make a bit of money.
As an aside, something does need to be done with the UK laws in terms of making it safer for women who choose to sell sex as well as a crack down on trafficking, but certainly not criminalising those who buy and sell sex willingly.
Back to the latest victim of The Scum. She will probably be out of a job (they may 'let' her resign, but she will be out (the irony being she may may have to turn to escorting full time), she may lose friends, have family relationships wrecked, be shunned by the neighbours and so on. She will be feeling absolute horror at having her private life splashed across the newspaper. She will feel invaded, violated, betrayed and sick. She will hate leaving the house, convinced everyone is looking at her. It's a thoroughly shit thing to happen and those who have anything to do with these (quite regular) outings of working girls should be shot. My heart goes out to her.
What happened to her happened to me.
You may have noticed that I now have a Favicon on my site! It's the little picture by the URL in the browser. It's not dreadfully clear but it is a shoe, my shoe, with my foot in. It will also show next to my website address in your favourites list. I am in your favourites list huh?!
Secondly, can someone comment please and state what time you are commenting. I think I have corrected the wrong time thing on here, but not entirely sure. Thank you.
Finally, I am out tonight with two lovely ladies, Sarita and Rosalie. No doubt we shall be comparing notes and swapping raucous tales!
As you should know if you've been reading this blog I do enjoy a bit of roleplay. It's something I enjoy doing with both clients and lovers and I wish I got to do more of it!
Apart from it being fun I think there are some very good reasons why this kind of fun works for so many people.
a) fulfilling a fantasy that you couldn't actually do in real life. Or at least close to the fantasy.
b) being someone else is always a good thing to do for a while. In some cases the use of roleplay can make bring out the confidence in a shy person.
c) having a scenario to work through may delay the hands on touchy sexy part of a session and we all know foreplay is a good thing. For me, the build up is a massive turn on.
d) It's fun! It can be a giggle and it's something different to the usual and hey if you get to laugh as well as get laid it can't be a bad thing.
So, deciding on what scenario to do. You may already have one in your head or have a fantasy already in which case it can easily be converted into your roleplay. The common one I get asked to do a lot is the slutty secretary one. I guess it's because guys see gorgeous women at work that they'd like to do rude things with and well, it wouldn't be appropriate to actually ask Miss Jones to take down her knickers instead of notes to a meeting. I think the 'secretary' thing covers a generic workplace fantasy, and has a better ring to it than slutty HR manager or slutty IT support girl! Although both those work in a roleplay scenario. getting called to HR to explain absence and persuading her to let you off if you give her some awesome oral sex or taking advantage of the IT girl late at night whilst um... rebooting severs (or whatever it is IT people do after dark).
Other common themes involve bored 'housewives' and callers whether it is the estate agent, insurrance man or pizza delivery boy. Again, I think for men it's about the fantasy of meeting a woman in a professional capacity but unable to actually do anything about it in reality. The French Maid which don't actual exist in reality really, but the outfit is cute, but a room service girl who spills soup on you and needs to remove your clothes and 'apologise' in a special way is always fun!
Other popular ones are Dr/patient, student/teacher, police officer/criminal (or just someone wanting to get out of a parking fine and one high on my list butler/maid!
Age play can be great fun too, but not everyone finds them comfortable. I personally believe a man who enjoys spanking a naughty school girl in roleplay doesn't actually want to do bad things to actual children. If he did he would be lurking around school gates and not engaging with 36 year old me in a fancy dress school tie!
In the same way a man who enjoys being seduced by his much older next door neighbour or best friends mum is unlikely to actually do it in real life!
More basic less defined roles can also be used. The beauty of roleplay is that you can be anyone anywhere and it doesn't have to be complicated and doesn't have to be about one person taking advantage or seducing the other (although these are the ones I like most) they can be as simple as a couple meeting up in a bar, flirting and then having wild sex in an alleyway - all without leaving your front room, although this one can be done in a real pub if you like!
The more quirky of you may have other fancies- alien lands on earth and wants to screw earth woman? Cave men and women who only communicate in grunts (although not sure I could do this without laughing) although this may be of inspiration to you! . Although the idea of being dragged by my hair to a cave is quite appealing!
Talking to some chatroom dwellers, I got some of their ideas (I thought getting a male perspective would be useful). H said:
"I used to have this fantasy of being in some kind of medical programme. I go to a clinic, where the girls treat me like meat, they just want to extract my jism (darn sexy girls in revealing medical gear)"
Other suggestions included off duty copper coerces a woman to avoid speeding fine, seducing someone you work with, being a sex slave to a group of busty girls, screwing a lollypop lady (?!), being seduced by a sexy GP doing a medical and being a taxi driver having a girl pay her fare in sexual favours.
It seems that most people do tend to like like the abuse of power or authority to be part of the roleplay. I assume this is because not only in reality you can't go round seducing random people but because deep down many people like the idea of having power over someone, or conversely a strong in-control person sometimes wants to be submissive and yielding to another. But we're getting into the dom/sub area now which is another blog for another day.
So, my checklist on a successful roleplay.
1. Decide what does it for you. See above for ideas!
2. Decide who does the seducing/taking advantage of who. In my experience one person is more dominant than the other. I don't mean dominant in a BDSM manner, although of course if that's your bag it can involve kinkier elements. I think one half of the couple being less keen than the other is a good tool to extend the session and build up the sexual tension. There's no point telling a woman you want to do a student/teacher roleplay if she is expecting to be taken advantage of and you expect her to be a slut who comes on to her teacher! So, simply you need to establish who is pushing and who is giving.
3. Don't over complicate by having scripts or long lists of details, but I think key elements need to be communicated and understood. There is as danger of someone getting in a tizz because they can't remember their lines, added pressure won't help.
4. Discuss and agree how fast you want the action to go. Someone will be let down if they think they are getting a long session with lots of teasing and seduction if the other just comes in throws her over the sofa yelling 'Pizza delivery!' as he rams his pepperoni up her within 30 seconds!
5. Don't give up. If one of you gets the giggles or gets struck dumb don't throw it in. Have a laugh and carry on. It's meant to be fun, you're not auditioning for RADA.
6. Dress the part if you can. No need for expensive and elaborate outfits or a props department that would put the BBC to shame, but a few touches makes it fun and keeps the focus. Remember my estate agent with a clipboard and tape measure?! Brilliant!
7. Don't be disappointed if the other person doesn't react how you want them to. It's very easy to say something and expect a reply or response, but unless you are very close or telepathic the other person won't know what you want. Throwing a hissy fit and screaming 'Noooo, you weren't meant to say that!' spoils the mood!
Talk about it afterwards.
8. You don't have to keep it up all night (chance would be a fine thing, boom boom!), the roleplay I mean... In my experience once the actual full on shagging bit starts it tends to peter out! But that's fine!
9. Talk about it afterwards (if it's with a regular partner, no need if it was a one off!), be honest, but not brutally critical, acting skills shouldn't be brought onto question!
10. Practice makes perfect and once you get to know what your partner likes and what works for you you can really start pushing some boundaries!
I love sucking cock. I know that's probably a bit crass, but hey you're reading an escort's website.
I know this sounds all very 'Book me! I'm fab' but really I do enjoy it and I think I do it well, well no one has every complained. I do wonder if there is such a thing as a 'bad' blow job. I mean, most men are happy if someone has their cock in their mouth!
Ok, I know half hearted ones or ones with too much tooth aren't so good. Unless you like tooth. I have been asked to gently bite a penis before now and to grate my teeth along the shaft but I think it's fair to say that most men prefer no gnashers on their nob.
When I was younger, I didn't really like them. Well I didn't not like them, I did them but it was because it's kind of expected but I wasn't very enthused about it. I suppose in my sexual naivety I wasn't getting anything out of it so it was a bit 'meh'. I'm trying to pinpoint a time when I did start to enjoy giving them.... *thinks*...
Ahh yes, it would have been in my early 30's when I became single again, well actually it might have been a bit before then, but I wouldn't want to incriminate myself!
Anyway I don't think there was a penny dropping moment or a man who made me think 'Wow I love this'. Anyway, at some point I realised I do like to suck cock. I think it's partly because my inner slut came out, partly because my submissive, wanting to please side came out and because I grew out of the selfishness of youth! Giving pleasure to others is A.Good.Thing. Yeah a man thoroughly enjoying and getting off on my sucking him is a great feeling. I love to watch a man enjoy what I am doing to him. Maybe it's my ego or maybe I have become a more kindly person!
So, how does one give a good blow job. Ladies (or indeed gay and bi men) here is my definitive guide, Lydia's Guide to Sucking Cock.
* Look like you want to do it- enthusiasm is a turn on- I don't mean jumping up and down saying goody goody, this is not hot. Just be keen, as if it's something you've been wanting to do all your life, but quietly...
* Positioning is important. Being able to get good movement is important and it's no fun if you're uncomfortable to start with. Get between his legs as he lays flat on the bed or on your knees as he stands (my favourite). Men like this because it's a bit of a submissive/power thing and you can look up at them (this is important).
* How to start- a good blowjob doesn't mean shoving the whole lot straight in your mouth. You want to make it last a decent length of time and your jaw will ache if you just do the sucking up and down thing so make sure you spend plenty of time on the build up. Ignore what you see in porn. That's just rubbish.
* Start right at the base of his balls, lick them gently with both flicking movements and with long slow sweeps right around each ball. Then suck/nibble them, very very gently. How easy this is will depend on the looseness of his balls- some are more saggy than others. Use your hands too, cup the balls and careess them. If inclined lick his taint. (the bit between balls and arsehole) quite firmly. If also inclined lick down to his arsehole, but rimming is another lesson for another day.
* Look him in the eye. Try to look as if you're saying, you want me to suck your cock don't you? Look minxy, knowingly, cheeky.
* Then ensuring you have a wet tongue run your tongue from the base of his cock right up to the tip in one long movement. Use a flat tongue so you're covering as much area as possible, as if licking a lolly.
* Do the above a few times, maybe deviating from a straight line to a more wiggly one. Don't spend too long on the head yet.
*If he has a drip of precum, lick it up using the tip of your tongue very quickly, a flick across will do. If you're less keen, use your finger to stroke it off.
* OK, now the head, if he has a foreskin then slide it back using your hand and use your tongue to lick the exposed bellend. Flick your tongue (hope you're keeping it wet girls) and swirl it about.
* Tease him by putting your mouth around the head, say an inch in and suck on it with varying degrees of hardness.
* Do the lolly licking again a couple of times. vary by licking down one side or tilting your head.
* If your mouth is getting dry or you need to shift positions use this chance to kiss him- passionately. Whisper to him that you can't wait to get his cock deep in your mouth or similar promising line so he doesn't think you've stopped.
* Ok, back down to the cock, maybe swap positions so get him to stand or or lay down.
* Look him in the eye again, with his cock resting on your lips or by your mouth. Use your hand to move the cock across your lips or keep it still and use your head. whichever works for you without licking to start with, but after a moment start licking again.
* Back to his bellend. Lick and suck it, swirl that wet tongue baby!
* Now you may take him in your mouth deeper. The general rule is no teeth. Suck at varying degrees or harness and speed up and down his cock. By varying the speed it'll stop him from cumming (probably)
* If his wang is too big for you to take the whole thing in your mouth, you’ll need to use your hand too. Slobber all over his cock for a while first so your hand will slide easily up and down instead of just catching on his dry skin. The most important hand move is the twister. When you slide your hand up his shaft, twist your wrist. A twisting motion gets you into a smoother rhythm than the straight up and down. Slide your hand up and down on the base of his cock in conjunction with your mouth moving up and down on the rest of it. The hard part is finding the correct grip.
Another good trick is to wrap your hand around the top of his cock and put your mouth over your hand. Then slide your hand down the shaft and your mouth down on top of it in a fluid motion until your hand meets the base of his cock. It will feel like you’re sliding your mouth all the way down him even if you can’t.
* For variety and to maintain some eye contact. If you're feeling dirty slap it against your tongue or face, then look at him while you rub his cock against your cheeks and lips. Guys are visual, this is just a little something naughty for them to look at.
* I can’t really teach you how to deep throat, that’s between you and your gag reflex. The important thing, I think, is to make an effort to take him in as deep as you can, even if it’s only for a few seconds. It’s hard to explain exactly how to do this: try concentrating on relaxing your throat and jaw. As I mentioned before, it helps me to steady his cock with my hand when I go deep, and breathing in or breathing out through the nose instead of just holding your breath also helps abate that “gonna gag” feeling.
* Be assertive, if he tries to push your head anywhere or thrust during the above firmly stop him, a firm hand on his thigh, or move your head away and tell him to keep still and enjoy it. If all else fails tell him if he thrusts once more you'll bite it off. Even the most dominating man loves to be bullied once in a while. Please note, men who push my head down will get a short thrift.
Now, this won't work by following it step by step, stopping to read a print out of this. Read and remember and if you can't the simple version of this guide is.
Variety of movement and location.
Of course the above may or may not work for you nor will it for every man, but be guided by him, watch what he is enjoying the most. Oh and you can ask him- does this work for you? is easily said and gives your jaw a rest. Although go easy on the conversation, it breaks the moment.
Use as much saliva (tbh, I'm not so good at this) as you can manage, boys love to hear the noise too, so at some point make an effort to try and make squelchy noises! Some men like you spit on their cocks, but don't do unless you're sure- it can offend. Try dribbling spit from behind your hand onto his cock if you feel unladylike about doing it.
And there you go!
Someone sent me this today.
I think it was a humourous compliment and not creepy!
Kinda like the idea though...
So much for regular blogging! I do think of things I want to blog about, in fact I make up entire blogs in my head and then fail to actually get them down. I am far more interesting and witty in my head, I promise!!!
have just been fiddling about with website optimization and Google analytics so my head is hurting. So much more to a website than meets the eye!
You may have noticed my prices have increased a tad and I am offering outcalls again. Several reasons for this, but I shall not bore you with that here. You want naughty exciting stuff don't you?!
Tell me what you want, what you really, really want!
I don't get many comments :(
This is me being good at posting.
Ummm, now what to say?!....
Well firstly Happy New Year, I have high hopes for 2012. After two rather tricky years I'm hoping this one will be a good one for me. That's not to say last year was all bad. I mostly had a great time and I think as a naturally positive and strong person I got through the more traumatic parts relatively unscathed!
One of the things I am most proud of is making this here website all by myself and becoming a full time escort and actually doing it well (I hope!) I've met some great guys through it and have had some excellent sex (a perk I didn't get in my previous job!). I have discovered, although I sort of knew it really; that I have awesome supportive friends. I am very much loved, which I think is a big deal in life.
I have taken today off to do some chores and chill out. I also popped to the shops to pick up some essentials.
In a well known chemist I picked up a supply of condoms including one pack of XL sized ones, a surefire way to indicate to cashier you're not shagging just one person! also got some babywipes and tissues! Of course the girl on the till didn't bat an eyelid, but I was amused that the contents of my basket might reveal my career! I then purchased five thongs, one pair crotchless (on sale in Ann Summers!) and seven pairs of hold ups. Any search on my shopping I'm sure would indicate that I had a healthy sex life to say the least!
So, all tooled up ready to take on the new year! Don't forget I am in Notting Hill on Thursday and Friday this week and if all goes to plan will be based here one or two days a week- probably the Thursday and Friday. Am very excited about this, it's good to do new things and I hope to meet lots of lovely new people and maybe get me some more regulars! The flat is close to Notting Hill gate tube- that's only 16 minutes from Bank in The City (according to TfL website) so am hoping to get some visitors from that neck of the woods.
And now am going to lay on the sofa listening to Adele who is on the BBC now. Nice and chilled end to the day I think.